Last Updated December 29th, 2014

How to Make Sure You Don’t Overwork When You Work at Home

How to Make Sure You Don't Overwork When You Work at Home

There’s an image many people have of working at home – sofa, bonbons, television, pajamas… we all know the stereotypes. But the reality is different for many. Many people have a lot of trouble separating their work life from their home life when they work at home, and often overdo it on the work side of things. It’s just so easy to go back to work in the evenings when the house is quiet at last, or excuse yourself from the family because you just want to get a little more done. Before long, you’re working so much that you aren’t making enough time for your family, and feeling overworked.

Just about any job will give you those times when you feel overworked, even if you don’t work at home, of course. Retail workers have the holiday season, software developers have deadlines, and so forth. It’s often not different when you work at home, except that some people find it too easy to overwork when they don’t need to and really shouldn’t. Your office is right there in your home, and it’s all too easy to go back to it when you should be living the other parts of your life. How do you avoid this?

Set Goals Beyond Work

It’s good to have goals for the work you do. It’s one of the most effective ways of getting things done. You should also set goals for other things in your life, such as time with your family, leisure reading, leisure activities and so forth.

These don’t have to be very strict – in fact I recommend against making too strict of goals for most personal things as you don’t want to take away the spontaneity that makes life more fun. Goals can be as simple as stopping work every day by a certain time so you can be with your family. You don’t have to plan things for each day, just know that you will make time for them.

Cut Back on Makework

We all have things in our routine we do that we really don’t need to do. Maybe you’re checking your social media accounts more often you should; maybe it’s your email. Maybe you spend too much time trying to learn new ideas for your business and not enough time trying to make it work. Seek out the things that aren’t really necessary in your work day and cut them out.

Automate… Reasonably

There’s a lot to be said for well done automation in your work day. If you post a lot on social media, some of that can be scheduled in advance. If you type a lot, you can set up macros for words and phrases you type frequently, and greatly increase your typing speed. You can set up stock replies for questions you commonly receive by email, so that you only need to adapt them to answer the exact question asked, rather than start the whole thing from scratch.

Things like these can save quite a bit of time. They cost a little when you get them set up, but should pay back nicely in time saved later.

Know What Can Wait

If you’re running a home based business, there are probably always more things you’d like to get done than you possibly can get done in a day. Odds are, some of it really can wait until later. Figure out what’s really not that urgent and find a better place in your calendar for it.

Hire Help

When it can’t wait and you can’t automate it, sometimes hiring help is the best way to get things done in your home business. There’s always some stress in hiring someone – there’s that bit of training and explanation you have to do even with an experienced virtual assistant. Once things get going, however, having that help can really ease your workload.

Know How You Work Best

It’s hard to work effectively if you’re pushing yourself to work at the wrong times or in the wrong ways. Early bird, night owl, get off to a fast start or start things slow, we all have our own ways of working that are best for us. When you have the option, pay attention how you work best and use that to your advantage.

Do the Most Important Things First

You should always know what you most need to get done and prioritize that, whether it’s a long term priority or an emergency that just came up. Sometimes these things will mean that you can’t pay attention to your preferred work times or styles, but when you have to get things done, that’s how it goes.

Take Breaks

Get away from your work regularly through your day. Go for a walk in your neighborhood or hit the gym for a little while. Do some household chores; just not so many or so often that they’re a problem for your work day. Do some leisure reading. Just relax during your lunch or snack breaks.

Giving your mind time away from your work is a big help in being more productive. This is especially useful if you’re dealing with a difficult problem. Focusing on it too long can actually make it harder to solve, while a break gives your mind time away from the problem directly which can make it easier to solve.

Set Boundaries

Set boundaries – not only about your work time, but about your personal time. Know when you’ll allow the personal to interfere with the professional and vice versa. You probably shouldn’t let a chatty neighbor or a door to door salesperson distract you from your work day for long at all, while a sick child or crying baby probably needs more immediate attention.

Similarly, when you’re off work, be off work. Don’t head back into your home office at times you should be enjoying the rest of your life without good reason. If there’s a crisis, yes, you may have to step away from family time. If you just want to check your email and aren’t expecting something, you’re probably better off staying away, because that one little thing can turn into a dozen little things and then you’ve missed out.

Schedule Social Media and Other Time Sucks

Social media has its place when you work at home, but it can turn into a huge time suck. Set limits on how long you can spend on social media, email and anything else that tends to suck up more of your day than it should. Pick times to work on those things when they won’t interfere with more important things you need to get done. Social media and email can be very important themselves, but odds are there are more important yet things you need to work on most of the day.

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Last Updated July 30th, 2014

Are Your Passwords Strong Enough?

Are Your Passwords Strong Enough?

When you work at home, online security should be a big deal to you. Your professional life can be badly damaged if your major accounts get hacked. Too many people use really easy passwords, or worse, use them over and over on a variety of sites, leaving themselves vulnerable on many sites if just one gets hacked. Having strong passwords for important accounts is vital.

There are a couple ways to go about creating strong passwords, and they don’t have to involve a lot of complicated rules. Some websites make strong passwords more difficult than others to make, often by limiting the number of characters to a number too small to provide true security. 8 characters, even if mixed in with numbers, capital and lowercase letters, and special characters, really isn’t all that secure.

Here are some ways you can create strong passwords for most sites without making your own life too difficult.

Use a Password Manager

I use LastPass for my passwords. It’s pretty secure – you have to use your master password to get into your account. There’s a simple browser addon to install, then it fills in your login data for various sites as you use them, once you’ve saved that data into LastPass. I find it really easy, and it works well with most websites. The basic level is free, but you can go to Premium if you want the mobile app or other features.

LastPass can generate those absurdly complex passwords for you, at whatever length you require. That’s really handy when you come across a site that limits the number of characters you must use. I keep them on the long side for most sites, only cutting it down when a website insists on something shorter. Banks in particular are often ridiculous about insisting on shorter passwords, which drives me up the wall!

LastPass encrypts your data, and it only decrypts locally on your computer, which keeps it safer. You can even add multifactor authentication so that just having your password is not enough for someone to get into your LastPass account.

The big thing people fear with a password manager is that it is a single point of failure. If something goes wrong with it, you have a big problem. I feel comfortable with how LastPass handles my data, so I don’t consider it to be a big problem.

Use a Passphrase

If you don’t want to use a password manager, a passphrase that you use is a good solution. You’ll still want to vary from site to site, but that’s just a matter of coming up with rules you can use for the variations on different sites. Many people use their phrase plus a couple of special characters, plus something to do with the website the password is for.

Think of a phrase that won’t be obvious to others. Inside jokes, a favorite quote that isn’t too long to type in, a memorable event, etc. Don’t be too picky about length if you can stand typing it in and the site allows – longer passwords are far more secure in general.

Don’t Reuse Passwords

Reusing passwords is one of the biggest security mistakes you can make. It’s one thing to reuse passwords on sites that won’t impact your finances or professional reputation; it’s another thing entirely if you reuse a password where those things matter.

Hackers can get passwords more easily from minor sites with weaker security, and all too often those passwords will give them access to other accounts that really matter. The more important the information your account on a site is to you, the stronger and more unique your password needs to be.


For those times you need to reset your passwords, you may have to answer a security question. The problem is that too many security questions are things someone could look up about you if they chose to do so. There’s a reason why banks no longer rely so much on the “mother’s maiden name” question on new accounts, although older accounts may still use that. My credit card company recently had me change to a new security question because that one is so out of date.

But many of the new questions are really only a little more secure. Come up with a standard answer for them, but don’t be honest. Have a little fun with your answer. You can even use password rules on it… not like any site checks to see if the answers you give mean anything. They’re for your personal use.

Be Sure You’re On The Right Website

The most secure password in the world isn’t secure if you just give it to the wrong website. If you get an email from a website telling you to log in for some reason, type the domain name in rather than click the link in the email. Phishing emails try really hard to look official, and sometimes even a careful person will fail to notice that the URL is wrong when they hover over the link.

These are some of the ways you can protect your important accounts with strong passwords. While there’s no guarantee that even a strong password will always keep your accounts safe, it’s a great place to start. Do you have any suggestions I’ve missed?

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Last Updated June 16th, 2014

Can You Take a Real Vacation From Your Home Business?

Can You Take a Real Vacation From Your Home Business?

I just got back home from a long road trip to see my dad and grandma, southern California to Washington state, about 2600 miles of driving overall in one very full car. The kids were incredibly grateful for their iPad and DVD player, and while they didn’t pay enough attention to some really lovely scenery, I did appreciate that the kids were occupied enough to not demand a lot of stops. It was a good vacation, with very minimal internet access, as grandma doesn’t have an internet connection and my cell phone does not have an unlimited data plan, by choice. We use Ting, and my bill for two smartphones was only about $20 last month – obviously we use them very little, but that’s why Ting makes sense for us. And yes, of course that’s my referral link.

It was a nice vacation, much needed. I checked in with my business very little – maybe 5 minutes each evening to make sure no crisis had developed while I was having fun. It’s hard leaving things completely along even when on vacation. But there are ways to get completely away if you choose to, and take a vacation completely away from your home business.

Option 1: Have Someone Else Keep an Eye on Things

The best way to feel okay about leaving your business alone for a time is to have someone else watch over things for you. I’ve had one of my sisters do this for me sometimes, basically just making sure the site doesn’t totally vanish due to major problems, and maybe keep an eye on blog comments. For home businesses that don’t require daily work, this is a possibility.

But if you want someone really handling things, you may want to hire a virtual assistant. You can set things up for a virtual assistant to be able to approve or delete blog comments, and maybe even forward potentially important emails while you’re on vacation.

If you have interactions with customers, a virtual assistant may be a necessity. Going on vacation doesn’t mean your business has to stop completely – just think about what kinds of things may happen while you’re gone and how it needs to be handled.

Hiring someone to handle things while you’re gone takes planning, but if the income you earn is enough to make it worthwhile, it’s far better than closing up shop just because you’re not home. You have to pick the right person, and that means you should try them out while you’re still home. You don’t want to have to worry about how things are going while you’re on vacation because you don’t know if the assistant you hired really understands the needs of your business. Take some time beforehand and make sure they know what you expect of them.

Of course, it’s smart to have someone to delegate basic tasks to all the time, not just when you’re on vacation. But if you haven’t hired any help before, this is a good reason to get started and to find out if it works for you. Having someone else do the basic work while you do the things only you can do can be a huge help in growing your home business. Make a list of the jobs you need done, and which emergencies may demand your attention even on vacation, so your assistant knows when to contact you.

Option 2: Shut Down For a While

Some people do shut down their businesses so they can take a vacation. This will have an impact on your income, of course, and may discourage some customers, but there are times when it’s the right decision.

Option 3: Just Go, And Don’t Worry

If your business can run mostly on autopilot, you may be able to just go on vacation and not worry about hiring an assistant or shutting down. I’ve done that. It’s not my favorite solution, as I can’t help but wonder how things are going, but since most weeks there aren’t problems that demand my attention, I can get away with it and know it probably won’t be an issue. Certainly, if a crisis develops and you don’t know about it, a small problem may turn huge, but most of the time it really won’t be an issue if your business can be left on autopilot.

This is close to what I did this vacation, except as I said above, I did check on things a little bit. I could have left it all alone, however, and there wouldn’t have been any problems… this time.

Oh, and if you’re visiting Portland, OR, and you love books, don’t miss Powell’s City of Books. Their website is nice enough, but really doesn’t compare to walking into the building and browsing their selection. It’s just worth the visit.

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Last Updated May 27th, 2014

20 Great Books Work at Home Moms and Dads Should Read

20 Great Books Work at Home Moms and Dads Should Read

There’s a lot of great information out there to help you be a better work at home mom or dad, from how to start working at home, to running a home business, to dealing with the kids while you’re all home. Here are X suggestions to get you started.

Work at Home

1. Work at Home Now: The No-nonsense Guide to Finding Your Perfect Home-based Job, Avoiding Scams, and Making a Great Living by Christine Durst, Michael Haaren
By the folks who run Rat Race Rebellion, this book provides resources to help you find a work at home job while avoiding scams.

2. The Mystery Shopper’s Manual by Cathy Stucker
Want to become a mystery shopper? Here’s how, without all the hype.

3. Undress for Success: The Naked Truth about Making Money at Home by Kate Lister, Tom Harnish, Jack M. Nilles
Learn about the types of work at home jobs available, what they require, how to find them and more. Starting a home based business and freelancing are also covered.

4. Remote: Office Not Required by Jason Fried, David Heinemeier Hansson
If you want to be a remote worker for an employer, this is a good read. You could get some ideas to help you convince your current employer to allow more remote work, and learn how to make it work for you.

Home Business

5. Craft, Inc. Revised Edition: The Ultimate Guide to Turning Your Creative Hobby into a Successful Business by Meg Mateo Ilasco
If you love doing crafts and would like to turn it into a business, here’s a good place to start. It includes internet resources to help you build your new crafting business.

6. The AdSense Code: What Google Never Told You about Making Money with Adsense by Joel Comm
AdSense can be a nice little money maker when you run your own website. This book helps you understand how to improve your implementation and improve your click through rate.

7. The New Rules of Marketing & PR: How to Use Social Media, Online Video, Mobile Applications, Blogs, News Releases, and Viral Marketing to Reach Buyers Directly by David Meerman Scott
Marketing your business well is vital to your success. This is one of my own weaknesses, and a book I’m strongly interested in personally. It’s on my own reading list for this summer.

8. Own Your Niche: Hype-Free Internet Marketing Tactics to Establish Authority in Your Field and Promote Your Service-Based Business by Stephanie Chandler
Marketing strategies for online businesses in a more down to earth manner. The book starts with choosing your niche, and works through areas such as building authority, engaging your community, SEO basics and much more.

9. Making Work at Home Work: Successfully Growing a Business and a Family under One Roof by Mary Byers
Balancing working with being at home is one of the major challenges of running a home business. This book will help you better fit your family life into your business as your business grows.

10. Mogul Mom – How to Quit Your Job, Start Your Own Business, and Join the Work-at-Home Mom Revolution by Andrea Clayton
The best part of this book is the profiles of successful work at home moms it includes. Reading about what they do, the challenges they’ve faced and how they overcame them. But it also covers the basics of running a business from home, which is something we all need to learn when getting started. There are other books in this series on subjects such as selling on Etsy and making a living as a writer.

11. Mom Blogging For Dummies by Wendy Piersall, Heather B. Armstrong
If blogging is your interest, this book is a great place to start. It will help you figure out how to get started, teach you about ethical standards for blogging, working with brands, earning money and more. I read Wendy’s blog back when she got started, and while she has moved on from that site, she definitely knows what she’s talking about.

12. The Relationship Edge: The Key to Strategic Influence and Selling Success by Jerry Acuff, Wally Wood
Understanding your audience and building a relationship with them is hugely important when making sales. This book will help you learn how to build those relationships within your business.

13. Guerrilla Marketing Goes Green: Winning Strategies to Improve Your Profits and Your Planet by Jay Conrad Levinson, Shel Horowitz
Want to learn frugal marketing while being eco friendly? This is your book. You’ll learn how to get vendors, customers and more telling others about your business for you, how to use social media and more.

14. Buzzmarketing: Get People to Talk About Your Stuff by Mark Hughes
Want people to talk about your business? Buzzmarketing will help you learn how to get buzz going about your business. You’ll learn what kinds of things get people talking and how to use that in your business.


15. Take Time for Your Life by Cheryl Richardson
A popular book on learning to manage the quality of your life. Working at home can be stressful with all the demands pulling on you. This book takes you through seven steps to improve the quality of your life.

16. The Have It All Woman by Susan Sly
Having it all sounds difficult, but with the right foundation, you can make your life better.

17. Back on the Career Track by Carol Fishman Cohen, Vivian Steir Rabin
After being a stay at home mom for a number of years, many want to go back to work. Picking up your career again isn’t always easy. This book may help you find your way if that time comes for you.

Kids & Family

18. Raising Financially Fit Kids, Revised
by Joline Godfrey
Teaching your kids how to manage their own money will help them be more financially secure as adults. Nothing to do with being a work at home parent – this is a book you should consider no matter what you do.

19. Free-Range Kids, How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) by Lenore Skenazy
A favorite of mine. So many parents keep their kids from being kids due to the fears the media promotes, even though for most families, there’s no need to overprotect our children so much. It’s not just fear of strangers, it’s when parents don’t even let their kids do normal things such as learn to use a kitchen knife or otherwise do too much for their kids that children should do on their own.

20. Even June Cleaver Would Forget the Juice Box: Cut Yourself Some Slack (and Still Raise Great Kids) in the Age of Extreme Parenting by Ann L. Dunnewold
Another great reminder that we don’t have to get it all right all the time. Quit feeling as though you’re in a competition with other parents and just be the parent you are.

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Last Updated March 31st, 2014

8 Things You Must Have For Your Home Business

8 Things You Must Have For Your Home Business

A home business can be easy to start. A good home business, on the other hand, takes more time to develop. It’s a long process, with no guarantee of success. However, there are some things you must have for the best chance at growing a successful home business.

1. A Why

Why are you starting a home business? Money, something to do, work you love, pride in what you’ve created… what are your reasons?

Money usually isn’t enough of a reason. For all you may want to earn more money, may need more money, it may not be as motivating as you think. Do something you don’t enjoy just for the money, and it eventually gets harder to do. It’s much better to earn money from home doing something you enjoy. It may take more time, but if you succeed, it will be a lot easier to keep going.

2. The Right Business

You won’t succeed with just any business. It’s easier to succeed in the right business… for you. Not for your friend, not for that guru online bragging about earning six figures a year. The right one for you.

Consider your work experience. What do you know how to do?

Consider your hobbies. Could one become a business?

Consider your family’s needs. What works with the time you have available? Will you need to work with the kids around? Are they in school part of the day? Will you need to pay for childcare?

Consider yourself. If you don’t enjoy going out and talking to people about your business, don’t pick one that requires it. If you hate being isolated with your computer all the time, don’t limit your business to online activities. Be sure the business is something you can enjoy doing.

Consider your target audience. None of the rest matters if you don’t have people interested enough in your business that you can make money from it. Passion is great, a passionate target audience is better. Fortunately, if you’re passionate about something you can make into a business, there are probably others too. You just have to do the research to figure out how to reach them.

3. A Reasonable Schedule

While you don’t need to have every minute scheduled, or even every hour, some sort of schedule for your work is a very good idea. Without one, it’s far too easy to slack off and get too little work done in a day or even a week.

Make it as detailed or loose as you prefer. Some people love their to-do lists – others hate them. Your schedule should work for you. If it pushes you a little bit, that’s a good thing, but if it interferes with more important things, rewrite it.

4. Family Support

Any kind of business is challenging, at home or not. But to run one without family support is all but impossible. There may be concerns, worries about expenses, the amount of time it takes, the risks and so forth. Talk about them. Get support where you need it, address family concerns where you can.

This can especially mean help around the house. If you’ve been a stay at home mom for a while, everyone may be used to you doing everything around the house. Running a home business means the rest of the family may need to do a little more. Make sure everyone knows to expect some changes and maybe some inconvenience. If you keep trying to do it all, you’re only making it harder on yourself, and that’s rarely necessary.

5. A Workable Budget

Running a home business usually involves spending some money. It may be a lot, it may be a little. Either way, you need a budget, money you know is okay to spend on your business. Expenses may include (but aren’t limited to):

  • Domain name and hosting
  • Website design
  • Business cards
  • Computer
  • Software
  • Product supplies
  • Shipping
  • Training

You may not need to spend money on all of these things. You may be able to put up a basic website without hiring someone to do it for you, for example… then again, it could be money very well spent to have someone else do it. You may be able to find enough free information online to get a good start to your business without paying for training.

Whenever you choose to go the free route on things you business needs, make sure it makes sense for you and your business. Free can be the worst choice at times. Any time you choose free, be sure it really makes sense. Your time is valuable, and free often means you’re spending quite a bit more of your time on something that spending money could speed up significantly. The right purchase makes sense. Remember, just because you can do something for free or close to it doesn’t mean you should.

6. Time Off

It’s very easy to spend too much time working on your home business. it can feel as though you’re losing valuable work time when you take a break, whether it’s just 10 minutes, an evening, or a nice family vacation. Time off is important. It allows you to refresh your mind. People are more productive when they take an appropriate amount of time off work, not only each day, but over the long term.

Plan for breaks throughout your work day, and have an end to your working hours every day. There may be times when your business requires extra long hours, but don’t let it happen every day. That time off you’re avoiding may be exactly what you need to refresh your mind and get control of the problems taking so much extra time.

7. The Ability To Say “No”

Any business owner needs to know how to say “no.” No to demands on your time that you really don’t have time for. No to friends and family interrupting your work time unnecessarily. No to the household chores begging you to do them when you need to work. No to more work than you can handle.

When business is good, there may be times when you need to refuse more work or take on assistants. If you can’t handle the workload, you have to decide what to do about it. Do you refuse a client or project, or do you hire someone to help you make it happen? A virtual assistant may be a good choice to help you through these times if there’s something they can handle for you. But if you don’t want to hire help, even on a short term basis, you may have to say no when too much work is offered to you.

8. The Knowledge that You’re Not Perfect

You’re going to mess things us and get things wrong. Sometimes you’ll break all the rules you’ve set for yourself. Sometimes you’ll make bad decisions. These things happen, whether it’s a mistake in your business or in how you deal with your family.

Don’t let your mistakes stop you. Learn from them. Make the changes necessary to avoid the same mistake in the future and apologize as necessary. If you demand perfection of yourself all the time, you’ll never get anything done because nothing will ever be good enough.

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