I can hardly wait for when my son, Gage, decides to start really talking. He’s a quiet kid. Says “mama,” “bye-bye,” “uh oh” and just recently added the occasional “up” to his repertoire. Since he’s 18 months old, this does get frustrating and just a little concerning.

I have spoken with his doctor at his most recent checkup, however, and been advised to wait another three months, then update the doctor so we can decide what to do. Since we know he hears, and he seems to understand things quite well, the doctor is not particularly concerned yet. Some kids are just late talkers.

But how do you know if it’s a late talker or a problem you need to be concerned about? That’s been one of my main concerns, since I know that in case of a problem, the earlier he gets help, the better.

I’m fortunate in that I can see many signs of a normal little boy in Gage. He’s active, inquisitive, loves to paint (himself… mostly on his legs and chest). He does get his wants across to us, is interested in sitting on the potty… in other words, is mostly quite age appropriate. He just shows a lot of signs of shyness and doesn’t talk much.

It’s really hard to know sometimes when to be concerned. From all my reading, I tend to expect Gage to merely be a late talker, rather than have a problem. Of course, having been a late talker myself, it’s easy to picture.

Since Gage was born with craniosynostosis, there is more of a chance than average of there being a problem. This has, of course, made me rather more sensitive to potential problems, but aside from this, there really haven’t been any obvious ones.

When in doubt, of course, talk to your child’s pediatrician. You can go over what you have observed and what your concerns are.

It’s hard waiting to see if there’s an insignificant delay in development or a significant problem. Sometimes all you can do is combine your parenting instincts with the information you get from your pediatrician. You have to know when to stand up for what you want, of course.

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