My mother asked me a question the other day that I hadn’t given much thought to in a very long time. Would I be going back to work outside the home when Selene goes to kindergarten?
Umm, well, that’s pretty far in the future. She’s only 7 months old, after all.
Now, my mother is very supportive of me being at home. This is not a topic she’s nagged me on or anything. I know a lot of work at home and stay at home moms do have problems with that, but I’m fortunate in that I don’t have to deal with that so much.
And as it is something a lot of work at home moms do, it’s even a fair question when posed politely.
My first reflex is to say “Heck no!”
Possibly more colorfully than that if someone were to be rude about it, but as I said, that was not a part of the issue.
Besides, while I like to think of it as improbable, nothing is impossible. And if my family need the money, yes I would.
But I don’t think about it because I don’t often miss working outside the home. I can miss the social side of it, interacting face to face with other adults, eating out and that kind of thing. Overall, however, I most decidedly do not.
It’s not a bad thing if you do miss working outside the home. Working at home is not the dream for all mothers or fathers. For many it’s frankly more difficult to work at home than outside the home. Being at home can be a sacrifice in many ways, not just financially.
I love being my own boss, even when I’m being hard on myself for not working enough hours. I love it even when the money isn’t coming in as I’d like. I’m even fairly fond of it when I have to work extra long hours to get something done that just can’t wait.
It’s hard often enough. There’s really not so much a possibility for a break with children around. If I’m not working on business, I’m probably dealing with children. Playing with them is a delight, but it’s not exactly the same thing as taking a full on break where I can do just as I please.
For me, the parts I miss about working outside the home do not come out ahead of the parts I love about working at home. And so, no matter the age of my kids I intend to keep on fighting to earn enough to stay here.