Just Give Them a Minute

You’re trying to get some work done. The kids just won’t give you any peace. It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to get dishes done, laundry, send an email or something else. They want you. Now!

Days like that can drive a parent crazy. You have a lot to do, and the kids just aren’t cooperating. It makes the job so much longer.

Ever consider just giving in, at least for a few minutes?

Often enough, this has been my best way to get some peace and quiet for getting other stuff done. I take a break and have some fun with the kids. When they’re trying so hard for attention, it’s often just that they really need it right then.

Most of the time, they aren’t after a huge time commitment. Just a few minutes of play. My son likes the “tickle spider” game. A couple minutes of that makes him very happy. But other times he or my daughter will need something that takes a bit longer.

If you really need the time at that minute, of course you can take it to get things done. But take the time to tell your kids why. Give them a time frame until you can go play. Set a timer if that helps.

It’s rough sometimes giving up the time you had planned to get something accomplished. Many stay at home moms have really busy daily schedules, and if something else comes up, it’s common to let playtime with the kids slide a little.

Doesn’t mean it’s your best choice. Just the easiest one.

We all know how fast children grow. You won’t regret playing extra, but you might regret getting too involved in caring for your home or working.

Sometimes this means learning to say no to people. If you’re at home people often assume you have tons of free time. And you might sometimes.

Other times, your life is quite full of other things. These are the times that you have to learn to refuse extra commitments. Overdoing it just tires you out and limits the time you have for your family.

Prioritizing can be one of the most important skills a stay at home mom can develop. But no matter how much you plan and prioritize, sometimes your kids will have other ideas. Cooperating with the ideas your children have for having fun together doesn’t have to mess up your plan for the entire day. Just take a few minutes and have some fun together.

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6 Responses

  1. It’s so true. You “give in” only to find you actually enjoy interacting with them.

  2. melitsa says:

    Exactly what just happened.

  3. Genesis says:

    I find that most of the time it`s easier just to prevent the whole hassle by scheduling playtime with my kids. If you hang out with them for a while, you`ll find that you get a chance to work afterwards, when they`ve had some attention.

  4. Stephanie says:

    All that said, these past two days giving in hasn’t been enough for my son. He wants the whole day! But I suspect that has a lot to do with all the changes around here lately, with hubby going back to work a couple months ago and baby on the way.

  5. Marilyn says:

    With my kids, the more time I gave them, the more time they demanded. Some kids are just needier than others I guess!

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